valerie wrote: Sort and sorta not.
In other words, have you given thought to people marrying for other reasons, not love, not sex, not wealth?
Yes, it's called arranged marriages, it's common in some countries - and sometimes in the US, haven't you watched Coming To America and Coming 2 America the sequel?
An older man and woman came to look at my house for sale some years ago. They met while retired living in a condo in Florida. They lived in the same building. Each was paying $2,000 a month for their amenities, etc. After getting to know each other, they decided to get married to save $2,000 a month. In other words, for them, it some how became a 'savings' to be married. They did not go into all the details. They were looking at my property for sale but they relayed the jest of it.
That is basically one of the points I gave - it is an arrangement to benefit one another, it is not always about flesh, wealth, but whatever benefits, and usually around money, so if you can save money, you arrange a marriage, people are willing to marry and go through loopholes to save on $$$$, it's an example of an arrangement to benefit both parties. Oh and let's not forget another reason - Guy travels, gets brainwashed, meets someone, gets drunk, gets humped a few times, "falls in love (what a joke)" and the Mrs. fell for the guy too and she wants so badly to go back with him. What's a way to ease the process - marriage, so that's another reason - marriage is mostly about arrangements, the true love and unconditional love forever is just a tiny fraction - some people want to marry because they want monetary benefit or simply do not want to be alone - but the problem is, marriage is a long term commitment, and no matter what, you cannot live 24/7 with someone unless you are extremely compatible - if people do not want to be alone and need company or affection, if they have nothing else to give in return, they are better off with a $25k life like shag doll, that'll keep them company 24/7, and when you take into account the total cost of marriage, it's way more expensive
Take me for example. I not only receive mat retirement benefits, I receive some of my deceased husbands retirement benefits. IF I was to marry, I would stop receiving my deceased husbands benefits.
Of course - exactly
Marriage is an investment (long term) and a business transaction - just like any business and investments, you can benefit from it if you play your cards right and know what you are doing - do most people know what they are doing ? NO - most people in my country and yours cannot even point their state on a map
I would go so far to say, a lot of people don't marry today due to financial situations and divorce might even play into that. Not just older people but young people too.
Yeah it's not uncommon now for people to just live with one another and skip the official marriage part. In some countries the process of divorce is extremely expensive or difficult, causing divorce rates to be very low to nil, I think it is that way in Philippines - people find ways around that by just separating and parting ways without divorcing.
Then you have the issue of prenup, some countries do not enforce it or the process is complex, so this might cause people to think twice or more before marrying if of course that was their intention to begin with
In Ireland, a prenup is not legally binding and not enforced, hopefully most people know that already so perhaps people marry and/or divorce less over there
Here on this part of the swamp - celebrity #1 meets celebrity #2, they get married, they sign the papers, and 1 year later, they divorce, celebrity #2 is way richer than #1, so #1 is getting a good deal here
Marriage in celebrity world is just one big transaction - dare I name names, there is one I have in mind between an actress and ........... let's leave it at that - that marriage is a sham and a gold digger's found a jackpot kind, what a shame that the Mr. is not seeing through it - but oh well - one day maybe
Not gonna mention names because there is not much we can say or discuss around here anymore. But when some guy has to part way with their roots and culture just because wife cannot keep up with traditions, protocol, well that's highly disturbing - kinda makes you wonder about compatibility, oh well this could be a win-win situation for both, Mr is getting some good **** and mrs is getting some good prestige and a generous inheritance (maybe)