A little testy are we.

It's like the old man that bitched at his wife every day about everything.

His drawers were not clean enough
His food was not done enough
His bed not soft enough
etc

One day she died.

That's about as lonely as it gets in my opinion. Now he has to bitch at himself
every day and to top it off, he has to wash his drawers himself, cook his food
himself, make his bed himself.

That's why old people get lonely after the spouse dies. It's because the other
one has no one to bitch at any more.

msblahms wrote:

sweetpie3000 wrote: You can closed this thread. Since Xmas is over.

this thread should have been closed the day it started as anything related to religion and that sorts is not allowed but i have noticed moderators have mostly been biased here on clixsense so nothing new but as the one who started it wants to close the thread than they must

For your information since you are very concerned about moderators, the topic is if people
believe in Santa. Not about God and not about religion. It's a story and the telling of how
people came to believe in Santa. It is a true story and it is not a big deal either way anyone
looks at it. BUT of course, like everything else in life, there is always someone that steps up
to the plate to make a mole hill into a mountain.

Moderators use their own discretion at what sticks and what doesn't. Don't you know that
by now?

@Pedminacar That's called communism and dictatorship.
Neither of which works for the common good of the people.

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There are plenty of very wealthy people in the world and they are not snobs nor put themselves
in a class above others. Many give to charities, build hospitals, and do tons of good in the world
and never expect a thanks. These people you rarely hear anything about.

I worked a few months years ago private home health for two old sisters. One was a retired math
teacher and the other was a retired secretary at the same school. They had never married and they
did not have children. They lived in the same house where they were born. All their furnishings were
immaculate, very well taken care of, but all antiques. Mary, the math teacher had her wits but Ruth
was more on the old timers disease side. Mary had it the worse because Mary did in fact have her
wits about her, was the oldest, and babied her younger sister, Ruth. Mary would cry some times but
she did try to hide her tears. She did not cry for herself. She cried for Ruth. Eventually, Ruth could
not be taken care of at home any more so Mary not only checked Ruth into the nursing home unit at
the hospital, but also herself. Probably not totally strange but still a bit odd since Mary did have her
mind, was mobile, and didn't have any severe health issues, she died first. I thought about that and
figured that was probably a good thing that Mary died first. She probably would have been lost without
Ruth to look upon, make sure Ruth was bathed correctly, fed the food that was best for her, etc. On
the other hand, Ruth NOT having her wits about her, would forget about Mary's death.

The old spinster ladies had given all they had to the school system. The city school where they worked
all their lives and to the city university that they had attended.

Their house wasn't worth much and eventually it was tore down. I think a parking lots is now in it's
place. They'd probably liked that, however, because the parking lot I think is for the hospital additional
parking.

Their furnishings were all sold, auctioned off.

Mary and Ruth had never really gone any where in their lives. They did not spend but little. After all,
they only lived a few blocks from the school. They had few clothes. Their dresses were long, worn
so long that some times I wondered if they ever stepped on the hems.

As I said, Mary was a math teacher. A very bright woman. She invested Ruth's money as well as her
own, for years and years and years and years.

Have you ever heard of Mary and Ruth? No you haven't. I just told you. They left MILLIONS and MILLIONS
and MILLIONS and MILLIONS and MILLIONS of dollars to the school system. ALL and EVERYTHING they
had, all went to scholarship funds, books, building, and more.

So PLEASE do NOT put all 'Rich' people in to one category.

I think the reason why some people are lonely but do not admit they are lonely is
due to pride. They don't want pity. Loneliness is not a disease. As I stated earlier,
it is a frame of mind.

Most of us have grown up believing we need fulfillment from other people in order
to not be lonely. Nothing could be further from the truth.

Look at these two people:

Person One: I am alone. My husband died some years ago. I miss him every day.
I see him in everything. I cry every day. I am very much alone. I have no one to
talk to. I don't enjoy life any more.

Person Two: I am alone. My husband died some years ago. I miss him every day.
I see him in everything and I smile. I live every day to the fullest. I have lots of
life to live and lots to give of myself. I volunteer at the shelter three days a week.
I adopted a dog and we go on walks every day, often stopping to chat with neighbors.
The church has a sewing class every Tuesday evening and I have finally learned to
sew. I am making quilts for the needy. Next week I am going with the church group
to the big museum in the next state over. We're going to make an entire weekend of
it. Lots to do when I get back because I must prepare for the church bazaar. I'll
be entering the roses contest this year and I think I might win the grand prize....I am
great at gardening. I will make a note to straighten the bird houses before winter.
Oh I almost forgot to log into ClixSense today....I got to do that and make extra
money to buy dog food for the shelter.

tasman1, there is a big difference in loneliness, how people cope with their loneliness,
depression, and clinical depression.

Technology has not resulted in making people lonely.

Life isn't fair. Shxt happens. It's how we deal with the shxt that matters.

Nazareth - Love Hurts - YouTube

and

Nazareth Hair of the Dog - YouTube if you want to rock out.

Well the song is 'Love Hurts'
The band is 'Nazareth'
The album is 'Hair of the Dog'

No, I don't have stars. I do have a smiley face.



A mew and bark and a dollar.

Did you know Tina grew up down the road from where I live?

Well, a little further down the road but not much. Nutbush, Tennessee.

Oh me and Nazareth go way back.

Nazareth is the band and the album is 'Hair of the Dog'.

I say album because that is what it was when I bought it. In fact, I bought it on a 45 as a Christmas
gift for a best friend when I was in my Freshman year of high school....or was it Sophomore...well anyway,
she loved the song too.

Well you know, everything is weird. Weird I tell you. Just weird.

Personally, I don't take this world very seriously. I don't know if that is a good thing
or a bad thing but it is my thing.

If I took this world seriously, I'd be a raving mad idiot. I think that is exactly what
happens to some people, they take the world much too seriously. Life is a gift, enjoy
it because you won't have it very long.

No, I don't think there is true love. There is stages of love, varieties of love, and
even conditions of love such as unconditional love.

Do what I do, buy a new trakfone every year that comes with triple minutes and includes 500 minutes.
Or just buy one every other year or every few years. I buy one every year simply because they do come
with minutes and rarely do I buy more than one more pack of minutes per year.

I have a landline and that is the phone I usually use. The mobile phone is good for emergencies or when
I do need to make contact when I am out and about.

The trakfone's have smart capabilities too, you can connect online, etc.

You know what, you come into the world alone and you're going to leave this world alone.

No such thing as true love.

There are stages of love and a variety of types of love.

Love for father. Love for mother. Love for your maker. Love for your children. Love for your spouse.
Love for pets. Love for friends.

All love is different and all love has different stages.

I still think that people do what they want to do, in regards to loneliness.

In other words, I think there is more ways to NOT be lonely today than ever before in history.

I look at sites like Facebook and think how great that would have been to have when I was in
school. All the kids I grew up with, how we could have stayed in contact so easily. Now I can't
locate hardly any of them.

A really sad story is a girl that was a best friend in school and I located her younger brother on
Facebook a few years ago. Right over in Memphis, just an hour drive from me. I was so thrilled.
I contacted him at Facebook, told him who I was, told him I had been looking for Debbie and how
is she, etc. He replied that she had died a couple of years ago. We grew up by Chicago but she
was originally from Memphis. I couldn't help but think how near we lived to each other and the
times I went to the Malls in Memphis.

The internet brings a lot of people together. The days are gone when one had to wait a week to
get a letter from a loved one or a friend. Now people can see each other over the internet.

We didn't have video camera's or even a good camera when I married and had children. Today,
people take hundreds of pictures in a week of their children, family, friends, etc. No more waiting
for pictures to be developed. Although there were video camera's when I married, few people
had them and most were expensive and weighed a ton. Now people can take videos with their
iPhones, smart phones, tablets, etc.

There is more things to do today, than ever before. More museums, more amusement parks,
more theaters, etc. Even if you're like me, living in a rural area, it doesn't take long to go where
the action is. In addition, there are more church's, volunteer organizations, community activities, etc.

I have a Bachelors of Science degree in Rehabilitation. There are more resources and activities today
than ever before for those with disabilities and more legal rights than ever before. The Americans
with Disabilities Act is a large part of making sure businesses make accommodations for the disabled.
There is 100% more acceptance today of people with disabilities. Everything from Downs Syndrome,
Autism, etc. In addition, those without limbs have more opportunity today than ever before. Those
with mental handicaps also have more activities and socialization.

For the single people, whatever their age, looking for marriage, the internet has some dating sites
that appear to be very good at match making. I know several people that have met their mate online
and are happy as a lark.

I know it isn't the case for everyone but I really do believe that most the people out there that say
they are lonely, it is because they choose to be. I think people get in a rut some times. I know I
have before. You can get lazy in your relationships and your lack thereof. I don't mean that just
a partnership type way as I mean that also with family, friends, or potential friends.

I think the bad often overshadows the good. It is a different world but you know what, it has always
been a different world. If you are 20 years old, guess what? It's going to be a different world when
you are 25, 30, 40, 50, 60, etc. The world is always changing.

I guess it depends on your definition of loneliness.

It seems there are people that think they need to be surrounded by people.
As someone said, people can be in a crowd and yet be lonely.

I think whomever wrote that, must be lonely.

Personally, I think the opposite is true.

'Loneliness' is largely a state of mind.

Sounds complicated.

You fail the test if you use cheat sheets.

Yes I like the old one also.

Tasman, my man, if you and I are still alive in 2050, I will be rather amazed....that is IF I even know where I am.