kanjoormadam09 wrote: Only 5% of the married people are happy with their married life
That bad ? I didn't know it was that bad
Though I remember a US statistic showing that more than 2/3 of marriages end up in divorce, but you cannot assume that those who do not divorce are happy, not every unhappy marriage ends in divorce, for a lot of obvious reasons
Why is it that so many people are unhappy in relationships ? WELL because they are in it for the wrong reasons - If someone is looking for a f*ck buddy to satisfy their daily or multi-daily cravings, then they don't want to get into a relationship, all they need to do is place an ad on Craigslist or on Tinder or on other sleazy sites and they will get a reply within 5 minutes of posting
People get into relationships and marriages for all the wrong reasons - They go by the initial infatuation, the initial lust. Humans are not meant to live with one another, make sacrifices, compromise, learn to live with differences, how many married couples really lived with one another for several years before deciding to get married ? This is how you can really gauge your partner's traits, in good and in bad situations, if you can pass the test, you are ready for marriage, but you only pass below the belt, and nothing else, that won't cut it
The worse are married couples rushing to have children before truly knowing each other on a DEEP level, so they end up with children then they are unhappy and postpone divorce until child has grown (if ever) or just don't, and delay the divorce until more damage is done or until one or both bodies are found down the river
Looks, physical, material, lust, infatuation, it seems to be at the top of the list, you know how guys are, at least 99%, they look at arse first, and other stuff, the outer shell, and let's be honest, girls/women do that too, even though they deny it - though it is not as bad as men are, looks plays a big role, personality second, and no the fact some women are coupled with ugly guys that's rubbish, these ugly men have money
So both men AND women cater to their own interest and agendas, so how the hell can marriage work, because most people use "SEX" as a baseline to see if they are compatible, sex, looks and a good kisser, I mean let's face it people have urges, if women don't find a guy that is a good kisser/lover, she will get it elsewhere, and for guys, they get it elsewhere anyway regardless
Except that for guys it is 100% physical, for women, there is lot of interest for physical and looks, but not JUST that. It is a sad fact that a lot of women / girls fall for deadbeat guys, violent, aggressive, etc, ask Gaby Petito that girl in the news, who was vloging about her trip, just watching that police video of her fiance you can see right away what a deadbeat guy he is, and now HE is wanted, why the bloody hell do girls fall for such guys even though they are violent, they beat their girlfriend, wife, etc. Both men and women have too many flaws and get into relationships for all the wrong reasons. Maybe there are 1% of men out there who are not only after T&A...... but yeah, this is why I think they should make those real shag dolls mainstream and affordable, in both male and female versions, it would help reduce the number of diseases and avoid unnecessary marriages or relationships, and it's less costly too - in fact it should be covered by insurance or even by the government
rest consider it as a hell. Fortunes and luxuries are meaningless as one day we have to leave all these and rest under the mud
Well if you have family or children, they will get your luxuries and fortunes
and yes we will all lie under the mud, until time we are risen to be judged
This is why we must try to enjoy life as much as we can, and it's a shame that people RUIN their lives with failed marriages. Both financially and emotionally.
But guys never learn, they like to brag how they are in their 12th marriage, and 10 children from 10 different wives.
and same for women, they leave violent guys and deadbeats only to meet another deadbeat - the F is wrong with people ? OK people have needs and need a partner, do not want to be alone, want to be loved, but people should be more picky and not rush into things (literally too